Unconditional love and relationships

I have never liked anything about Katy Perry (and it doesn’t help she’s Carlos’ top celeb crush…). I was pleasantly surprised, then, when I was listening to her new song, “Unconditionally.” Hearing lines like “I will love you unconditionally, “There is no fear now, “Walk through this storm I would, I’d do it all because I love you,” I was genuinely impressed. That is, until at the end of the song, she asks, “Will you do the same for me?”

Wait, what? That is NOT unconditional love. Unconditional love is loving someone WHETHER OR NOT they give you anything in return. It is love “not limited by conditions; absolute.” On November, 5, I posted a blog in the middle of a tough season Carlos and I were experiencing. Strangely enough, listening to Katy Perry sing about “unconditional” love was one of the things that helped bring me out of the bad season. Because as much as I hated to admit it, I was asking the same question of Carlos: “What can you give me?” instead of “What can I give?”

Since Katy Perry’s (and truly, the whole world’s) definition of unconditional love is skewed, there’s really only one place to look-at God’s definition. Because God loved us, he gave his son as a sacrifice for our sins (John 3:16). There is absolutely nothing that can separate us from the love of God (Romans 8:38-39). The bottom line, then, is that despite being sinful, God’s love has never stopped pursuing me. It will never stop pursuing me.

So, with God’s help, and lots and lots of mistakes along the way, that is the way I am trying to love Carlos. I still wonder what will happen if I love him with everything I have and we still don’t work out. But unconditional love doesn’t worry, and it isn’t afraid. It just loves, and entrusts everything else to God.

Thanks for teaching me a great lesson, Katy Perry, but P.S. I’m still not a fan of yours 🙂

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